Fast or slow?
To each her own; and that applies to what a woman wants in bed — either a fast fuck or the slow, smooth kind. However, it seems that most women prefer the sensual approach rather than the pound-pound-pounding away.
A slow, smooth approach will enable you and your partner to employ your senses and experience all the bliss related to the sexual experience. Feel her soft skin, see her lovely face, hear her moans, taste her mouth, and smell the scent of her body.
True, most films favor and highlight the fast and hard fucking. But that’s just on film, silly! That’s the way it’s supposed to look — quickly and vigorously. How else can they sustain your interest if they otherwise took the slow road? It’d be rather boring, wouldn’t it? So, in order to get that wild and exciting impression, the porn stars are instructed to take the fast road. That’s why men have created the illusion that this is just the way it is supposed to be done. Well, sorry to disappoint.
Besides there are advantages to the slow approach. One is that you get to explore her body more. It’s not just her breasts and her twat that matters. Have you tried licking her ears, touching her nape or the back of her knees, or massaging her foot? Well, you should. These are highly erogenous areas of the woman’s body’ and it’d just be too selfish of you if you don’t provide her the pleasure.
Women are turned on with kissing, caressing, licking (slurping even). It just sends her to the edge as you masterfully rein her back. This only makes her even hornier! She’ll want you more and more if you tease her; building up the aching need inside her. Don’t you just love hearing her moan and feel the tingling down her spine?
Build up her longing with romantic nuances like flickering candles, rose petals, fresh sheets, sweet music, kinky underwear or sex toy. This whole romantic package is important for her, so don’t you try to shortchange her. Try out various foreplay techniques first before taking the slow plunge. Intense and increased desire only makes way for numerous orgasms.
A slow approach also conserves your energy for that surging crescendo. If you thrust harder and deeper, you are in a rush to get there. You’re only forcing it; and it’s not as satisfying as it should have been otherwise. It could also give your honey a stiff neck or sore back, for that matter. Several seconds of frenzy rewarded by a quick orgasm is rather limiting. Why not extend your pleasure even more?
Learn how to control your urges. Build up her longing with slow, deliberate thrusts, pausing curtly, and constricting your inner muscles. Touching fosters a stronger connection; the more you are familiar with each other’s bodies, the more intimate your sexual encounters would be.
Every sexual experience means so much for a woman. So, try to approach your love-making with sincerity, confidence, and respect. You can show her this by making her feel special and by considering her needs. She may not say it out loud, but she needs more than a steely pecker inside her. She needs more than that, and you should know better.
